10 Reasons that Could Be Keeping You Single

1. You’re looking in the wrong places girl. What’s the use in looking for a person you’ll like, in a place you dislike! Start by going to places you enjoy; you’re bound to meet people who you have something in common with you.

2. “A bad experience with dating can frighten women from trusting guys.” Are you being troubled by memories of that terrible blind date? Or that creep from an online dating site?

3.“The ritual of dating has changed because of today’s sexual thinking.” What I mean is people no longer feel like they need to make a commitment to enjoy some of the pleasures that come with relationships, like sex. “Commitment is no longer formalised and people today have a lot more sexual freedom. is this you? Well most men will still say that they respect a girl more as ‘wifee’ material who refrains from such activities.

4. Are you still stewing over your last relationship? A bad breakup can leave you with memories in your head of all the unfair things your ex did. And when you get your new man, you wont let him forget it either. Big no no.

5. Your business or career comes first. Young professionals are so business-career-driven that they simply don’t have time to meet the right person. Or if they do, they spoil it by having no time to spend with them. “Career women spend late nights at work and dedicate a large portion of their lives to their jobs, leaving little for relationships.”

6. Are you’re hooked on relationship drama? There’s a good reason you can get caught up in drama, relationships with crazy bad boys that have this animal attraction that we all fall for.

7. We pour ourselves out to fast. Anyone who’s a big part of your life should know everything about you, including the serious stuff … but all in good time. Making a full disclosure about how many babies you want or challenges and troubles you’re facing before you even know if the relationship is a starter will guarantee it won’t be.

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8. Do you always fall for unavailable guys? Running after guys that are taking, married, or otherwise unavailable men isn’t likely to get you to happily ever after. Leave them well alone!

9. Do you cling like super glue? If you’re the type to call and ring your man 24/7 and gate crash his guys’ night because you “missed him,” then honey beware: As much as you think he loves you, men are put off women with insecurities and desperation type tendencies .

10. Do you hop into bed too soon? If you’re used to casual hookups and then the wam bam thank you man, then expect the man to to treat you as a booty call or give you that love ’em-and-leave ’em attitude which may hurt when you want something deeper.

Can you think of any other reasons why women remain single?

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How to Have Fun by Yourself (for Girls)

Weather you're stuck home alone for an hour or 7 hours, you need to have some fun, girl time for yourself. Read on!

Steps

1. Put on your favorite sweatpants and tank top, or something else that's comfortable. Make sure your clothing is cozy, but not too heavy!

2. Tie your hair back into a ponytail or bun; today you shouldn't worry about styling it, so give it a break! Now the real fun begins.

3. Give yourself a salon-style pedicure.

1. Soak feet in hot water for around 5 minutes. Use a foot scrub, and rinse. Drain the tub, and pat feet dry. Apply a creamy foot lotion or cracked heel treatment. Massage it into feet.
2. Use nail polish remover on your toenails, even if there is no polish on it already. This will clean your nail surface. Clip and file your toenails short, and somewhat straight across.
3. Paint on one coat of base/top coat. Let dry, and apply one to two coats of a pretty color of your choice. Let dry. Apply top coat, and watch television while your toes dry.

4. Repeat on your fingernails.

5. If you're hungry, call the local pizza place, and order yourself a small pizza and maybe some cinnamon desert bread sticks. Yum! Don't worry about what you're eating today, it's me time. But, if you'd rather eat healthy, make yourself a salad. Drink some water to give your skin a healthy glow, along with your salad.

6.  Read some magazines, and re-create the makeup looks on yourself if that's your thing.

7. Put in a good chick flick, like 13 Going on 30, Just my Luck, She's the man, etc. Relax while you watch it.

8. Cook something! make brownies, cookies, meals, drinks, etc.

9. If it's warm, go outside where the neighbors maybe can't see you, and tan! Just be sure to use sunscreen.

10. Shop in your own closet. Lay out shirts on your bed, bottoms on the floor or a chair, and make a pile of shoes. Write down some cute outfits you could make out of them, or look up ways to re-invent your clothes. This will also let you organize your closet.

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Be a Single and Happy

Being single is not anything to be ashamed about in our age! We live in a time when most relationships break up and there is no guarantee that even the best ones will last. In the meantime, there is much to enjoy in life, and singleness has a great many benefits that those couples you envy would give an arm or a leg for!

Steps

1. Take charge of your reality and give up all that envy! Stop worrying about everyone else around you getting into relationships, and thinking that you need to as well. All those happy couples in movies and TV shows are the fabrications of Hollywood writers - fairytale imaginings designed to sell tickets and get high TV ratings. Real couples have messy lives - they fight, leave the bathroom dirty and steal the remote from each other. Give up those unrealistic fantasies of your 'soulmate', and notice how most people around you are just regular folk - good people, but not magical heroes who fix each others' lives.

2. Focus on becoming the best person you can be. Take classes, work out, grow a garden, do volunteer work, go to therapy, do whatever your heart desires - for you! Once you feel better about yourself, you will attract more friends and maybe a little romance! But once you become the person you like, you may be less willing to compromise what's important for romance.

3. This is the time for you to concentrate on yourself and figure out what you like and don't like. Make plans with friends that you haven't seen in a while. Take a nice, hot bath. Read a book, or walk the dog. Take time for yourself, and don't sweat finding someone. You can't go on looking for love, love has to find you.

4. Indulge yourself. Go out and get your nails done, have a spa day and get a massage. Just because you no longer have someone to impress or please doesn't mean you should stop pleasing yourself. You are now a strong, independent person who deserves the best. So give it to yourself!

5. Now that you're single this is a great time to go out and have fun. Flirt if you like, go out to clubs with your friends. Play the field. You are no longer committed to anyone but yourself, and you have every right to do as you wish.

6. Granted don't take the above advice as going for every piece of ass out there. You have a reputation to uphold, and a promise to your body, mind and soul to take care of you. You don't need another person to make you feel special.

7. I know its hard not to get depressed or lonely when you see other couples around you wrapped up in their own bliss (remember, it's not always that way). Just remind yourself that you love yourself and that you are special and do not need another person to complete you. One day, who knows, you may come across that special someone as well. But for now, be patient and take that time that you would spend caring for another person, to care for yourself.

8. Realize that you are still lucky and fortunate. Many people around the world are either: chronically ill, homeless, living in poverty, starving, fleeing from warfare, and have no personal freedoms due to dictatorships. If you are depressed and think you are not lucky because you are single, think again!. People in those aforementioned conditions have it harder than you!

9. Take up a new hobby! Learn guitar, join a tap class, grow a garden, write a novel, cook some gourmet meals! Whatever you've ever wanted to do, do it now. This is your time to shine and live your life. Do what makes you happy.

10. If you have low self-esteem or confidence or don't know how to love or care for yourself, then now's the time. Look in the mirror and tell yourself things you like about yourself. Repeat phrases to yourself such as "I am a strong, and beautiful individual" and tell your reflection that you love you. You need to know that you cannot expect others to make you happy. You are the only person who can make you happy in the end.

11.  In the end, once you stop focusing so much on what you don't have you'll start to realize how much you do have. Turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Its a long, hard process, but just keep at it and soon you'll realize that the glass in not half-empty but half-full.

12. Become an optimist, a trait that helps you whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed! Keep a gratitude diary and every night think of 3 things you are grateful for. Find the silver lining in everything throughout your day, and savor little pleasures. You'll live longer, make it through tough times more smoothly, and even avoid the common cold more often!

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