The Most Important Words in a Relationship

 

Even in the best relationships, partners get on each other’s nerves from time to time. What’s the best way to make sure that minor transgressions don’t sabotage mutual respect in a relationship? With three magic words: “I am sorry.”

“I am sorry” acknowledges the other person’s feelings. They acknowledge a transgression. They take away the hurt. They put things on an even keel again.

Don't say : “I’ll interrupt you if I want to!” This approach is not recommended unless you think having a disgruntled partner is a good thing.

Option two is to comply and say nothing. This isn’t terrible, but it's not great either. If your silence projects reluctance or annoyance, it’ll probably land as compliance under protest—and that heals nothing. By far your best option is to comply and say “I’m sorry.” It’s kind of like vampire blood (if you're a fan of True Blood, you'll get the reference): it heals the wound immediately.

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Of course, “I’m sorry” has to come from the right place to be meaningful. It can’t be rote—going through the motions never touches the emotions. It shouldn’t be inflated, either. The “I’m sorry” that sounds like “I’m an awful person” will come across as self-absorbed and not genuinely caring unless your behavior truly has been awful—and interrupting or talking too much at a dinner party doesn’t qualify.

Bottom line, a dignified, self- (and other-) respecting “I’m sorry” will do fine.

So what are the three most important words in a relationship?

Not “I love you,” though saying that frequently is a fine idea.

Not “let’s have sex,” though having sex often is also a fine idea.

it’s “I am sorry,” three little words that are a wondrous cure-all for the inevitable hurts, little and big, that are our lot in intimate relationships.

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Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Boyfriend

 

When you love someone it’s important to allow yourself to express it also. Some girls restrain their show of love for the fear that the guy would start taking her for granted, but that’s like living from a very protective place. If you really trust his love why should you fear expressing yourself fully and if you don’t trust his love then ask yourself why you feel that way.  

Any action that swells from the innocence of a love filled heart is bound to carry the flavor of sweetness. But in case you are looking for some tips on things to do for your boyfriend, here’s a list.

Be all ears to what he says

You don’t only want to be his girlfriend but also his best friend. One of the qualities of being a close friend is to be a good listener. It’s not easy to be willing to listen without wanting to judge or comment, but if you really love him allow him this talking space. Let him talk his heart out and then encourage him to talk more, he is sure to appreciate the sweetness in your wanting to listen him out.

Dress to his taste

Remember that this is not a directive but something that you want to do because you love him. Your boyfriend may find some of your dressing style uncomfortable or too revealing, especially in public places. If you sense his discomfort you can avoid dressing that way in his company. He’s bound to find it sweet of you to do this for him. But take note that you don’t have to do anything that makes you feel resentful or else it will only end up making you feel lousy or exploited.

Cook him something special

In fact just cook him anything that you know he likes and he’s sure to find it really sweet of you, especially during the initial days of the relationship. Guys love a “home maker” instinct in their girlfriend. Even if you are not a great cook, he will definitely love you for putting in the effort for him.

Give him a special night

If the both of you are on physical terms then there is no better way to be really sweet to your boyfriend than to give him the pleasure of your intimacy. The giving part is usually the most loving part about sex, and as a girl you can really give him a pleasurable high with the things you can do with his body.

Baby talk him

Many guys love to be baby talked to. You can call him by some “baby” names like teddy, cutie, sugarpie, plumcake or puppy and sweet talk him. No matter how much we grow up we all have a child inside us that loves to be acknowledged. Cuddling and baby talking are some cute things to do for your boyfriend.

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Gift him for no reason

Nothing shows love more than the act of giving. If you know that your boyfriend is looking to buy something for himself, you can buy it and gift it to him. You can gift him a shirt, a cap or a t-shirt out of the blue for no reason at all but to show him how much you love him.

A genuine love within usually manifests as a gesture of giving and that’s the sweetest part about any relationship. You can do a lot sweet and cute things for your boyfriend just be holding on to the deep appreciation you have for the relationship. True love is always finding ways to show itself so opportunities will makes themselves available to you all the time.

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What to Do After a Fight with Boyfriend

Did you have another fight with your boyfriend? Is it something shallow that can be resolved logically or something deep like if you caught him with another woman?

Things To do :

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1. Differentiate what kind of fight you guys have. If it something that can be resolved quickly like if he was late again for your date, then you need to understand his reason why he was late, but if it’s something deeper like he cheated on you or he stole money from you then you need to break the relationship. Getting into a fight with your boyfriend is normal. Both of you have different personality and sometimes you tend to disagree on some things so it’s okay if you guys fight from time to time.

On the other hand, if he is physically hurting you as well as mentally like doing something you don’t want to do, then it’s time to end the relationship. He may have some issues that even you can’t fix. Besides, if he is hurting you, you are not helping him to be better if you stayed on the relationship.

Getting into a fight with your boyfriend is very unpleasant and if you let it escalate into something more, he may end the relationship with you. So what do you do if you have a fight with your boyfriend?

2.  Let things simmer down. Go for a walk or take a shower. You both need to calm down first. There’s no use to talk things out when the both of you are upset. Don’t talk for a while just let each other be calm. 

3. Ponder about your fight with your boyfriend. Where you unreasonable? Is this an issue that has been brewing for a long time? Do you think that it was a mistake for your part? What’s important is that you understand his side of the story too. Maybe you made a mistake or judge him too quickly. Do this when you are calm. 

4. Talk to him calmly. Let him talk first and try to understand his side of the story and then you tell your side. After that, try to think of a solution to the problem. Do you think he could wear a watch so that he’ll remember your date or maybe you can call him an hour before you guys meet to remind him about the date? Remember that nobody’s perfect and everybody makes mistakes sometimes. There is no problem that cannot be resolved so find the solution to your problem.

Now that you guys find the solution to your problem, it’s time that the both of you forgive each other and have some fun. Do something together that is happy and fun. There’s nothing wrong if you guys fight from time to time but remember that in a relationship, it’s not the only thing you guys have.

Remember that finding solution when you have a fight with your boyfriend can strengthen your relationship. The important thing is that both of you learn from that fight and learn to forgive each other.

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Five Relationship Mistakes

 

Sometimes finding a relationship you know will last forever feels impossible. When you're struggling in love or have had your heart broken, what else makes a successful relationship? Learn the five critical mistakes that may be keeping you from a greater love life.

Mistake #1: You Jump to Conclusions

While compatibility is revealed in Vedic Astrology and is very important, it's simply not enough. Why? Because you can be wildly compatible with a man who isn't a nice man. He may be an addict, an abuser or have commitment issues and will never meet your expectations. At the same time, if you're not compatible, then nothing else will matter

The Warning Sign:

If you don't feel good around him, if you can't talk and have him understand what you're saying, if you don't have a foundation of friendship and healthy mutual attraction -- you won't be happy no matter how much everything else is working and no matter how great of a guy he is. If you feel like you're working too hard on your relationship, chances are, you're not compatible.

Mistake #2: You Don't Read the Material

You must find a man that's "relationship material." He must want a relationship, know how to have one and be available. Relationship-oriented men are obvious: they're usually in relationships! They like women. They have friends. They get along with their families and people at work. Besides, you can find out if he's relationship-oriented or not by looking at his Vedic chart.

The Warning Sign:

Men who are not relationship-oriented are not close with their families -- or they're way too close to their families. They whine about or have drama with friends, they dislike everybody at work or they spend most of their time alone. You cannot turn a man who is not good at relationships, or healthy enough emotionally, into a man who is.

Mistake #3: You Rush Into Things

You're in a "season of love" and when you're not. It doesn't matter how hard you try, or who you meet. You could hire the best matchmaker in the world, and be on every Internet dating site, and you won't find "him." Just as flowers can't grow when the ground is frozen, but effortlessly do so when the snow melts, there's nothing you have to do once the conditions are right. He'll find you, and you'll find him.

The Warning Sign:

It's important to wait until it is time. Focus on having the best life possible in the meantime, so you'll be as attractive and ready for a great man when the right time comes. Studies show 50% of men getting married report they could have just as easily married someone else from their past and been just as happy, but that the timing wasn't right.

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And that part of the reason they're marrying the woman they're marrying, is that the timing just feels right -- now.

Mistake #4: You Settle For Less
You have to want the same kind of life. One of the biggest reasons couples break up is when one person wants children and the other doesn't. Or, one wants to live in the city and the other one wants the country. You have to be the kind of person he's looking for, and he has to be the kind of person you're looking for.

The Warning Sign:
You're not going to turn a quiet chess player into a party animal. Or a man who hates snow into one who wants to go skiing every weekend. Or a man who doesn't care about material things, and isn't very ambitious, into one who wants to build an empire for you. If you find yourself wanting to change the person he is now, first get clear on the kind of life you want and the kind of guy you'll need to have that life. Then, go find him -- and resist all others.

Mistake #5: You Don't Develop the Skills
Often, two good people get together and are happy for a while, but then one of them starts to harm or neglect the relationship. Even healthy, smart and attractive people sometimes don’t know how to relate. They try to find the reason for miserable love lives, "blaming the stars" for the latest breakup, or lack of closeness with their partner - when usually they don’t understand how to communicate, or ask for what they want.

The Warning Sign:
Once they learned those crucial aspects, their relationships improve, and they are able to get back that spark. So, if you've lost your spark with the one you love, or if he used to seem like your dream man but now you're not so sure, or if he's withdrawn from you and is not as enthusiastic as you'd like, then your relationship skills need an upgrade. You have the power to improve your love life.

By : Carol Allen

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Deal With Jealousy

 

We can all experience jealously at some point in our lives. The following article provides tips on how to manage and turn your jealous feelings into positive actions

Gaining self-confidence:

A lack of self-esteem might bring in a lot of jealous feelings within oneself. When one does not have very high opinion about self and is not sure about one’s own capability, that is when jealousy gets a chance to raise its head. Due to the feeling of inadequacy, one starts to harbor an unhealthy kind of dependency towards another which in case of a romantic relationship, is the partner.

When the partner is unable to handle this kind of needy dependence, then the feelings of mistrust arise. It is essential for the health of a relationship to develop self-confidence and reliance on one’s self. Making a few positive attitude changes will bring in a new self-confidence and will tackle any kind of insecurities also. Only when both partners have an independent life of their own, petty issues and concerns can be avoided.

Individual Goals and Self-Reliance:

Sometimes jealous feelings stem out of a feeling of inadequacy on one’s own abilities. Because of this feeling we tend to rely too much on others for fulfilling our own inadequacies and when our demands and feelings are not met, we tend to wallow in envy. It is very important for us to gain individual existence and we are self-dependent.

A partner’s company or praise should not become a need; rather it should remain a want and a desire. When we have our own goals in life to fulfill and have the self-confidence in our self to sail through life, jealousy becomes a non-issue.

Understanding Your Feelings:

The first and foremost thing to do when you are in the clutches of jealous thoughts is to examine where it arose from. Usually in a romantic relationship, you tend to get jealous if your partner is devoting too much attention towards someone else, but not necessarily someone from the opposite sex. Sometimes one might feel jealous of the attention your spouse is displaying on parents, friends, siblings and even colleagues.

You will need to identify exactly what has triggered the feelings within you which will then help you deal with jealousy in a better way. If the feeling has stemmed out of a baseless factor, you will need to self-examine and self-cure before it gets any worse. If the jealousy is based on something that you feel your partner has done, it needs to be dealt with by both of you through calm and sensible discussion

 

Building Trust:

Communication is very important for a relationship to become secure and the lack of it can bring in a lot of mistrust and suspicions. A couple needs to be clear about each other’s feelings, especially about issues which are a concern for either one of them. Laying down the cards on the table about one’s likes and dislikes will nip any kind of jealous feelings in the bud.

If you have any kind of distrustful emotions due to the actions of your partner, don’t keep your feelings bottled inside. Instead voice out your thoughts to your partner and let him/her assuage your doubts. Unless and until there is a base to your feeling of mistrust, there is no point of letting things get out of hand. But if there is real cause for concern, you will need to deal with the issue, instead of wallowing in feelings of envy.

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Besides, in many cases a compulsive possessiveness and jealousy might be the reason why your partner is not open about certain things in his/her life. It is therefore very important to keep the lines of communication open and give each other the benefit of the doubt instead of raising suspicion all the time.

Dealing with Threat:

When a person is very much obsessed with another, he/she sees everything as a threat to their relationship. Any kind of attention that is meted out to another will be taken as a sign of affection and love and, this in turn will bring fear in the mind of the partner, which will trigger jealousy. It is essential for a relationship to be secure and sound and this lies in the hand of the couple who is making the relationship in the first place.

If jealousy is not handled and taken care of in the initial stages, it can lead to a myriad of problems at a later stage. Apart from harming the relationship, it will inflict a lot of emotional damage on the individual self as well. A relationship which is shrouded in jealous and envious thoughts is like a pillar which is infested with moths. If left untreated it is going to collapse soon.

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Is He Still In Love With His Ex?

 

When you enter into a relationship with a man who has previously been heart-broken, the thought that he might still be in love with his ex will not probably enter into your mind immediately. There are many times when a person gets into a rebound relationship without even realizing the fact.

It is not that there is any intention to hurt your feelings; it is just one of the various twists in love. Ironically, even women love to think of themselves as the fixer of broken hearts; and willingly start an affiliation with someone who is clearly still in the throes of his previous passion.

While there is no reason to deny the start of a beautiful saga just because your affianced have had a previous relationship; but to knowingly enter into one when he still appears to love his ex, is definitely a foolhardy task. There is no guarantee that he won’t be going back to his ex, with the first chance that he gets and neither is there any assurance that he loves you truly and is not in a rebound relationship.

It is better to give him a chance to recover from his heart break before you start on a new journey. There are some very clear signs that his heart might still be in his ex’s hands and it is prudent not to ignore them completely.

She is still in his life: There is no harm in maintaining a friendly contact with one’s ex but when the person becomes a constant presence in your partner’s life, it might be a cause for worry. It is not healthy for a new pair of lovers to be constantly haunted by the presence of someone who was an important part of one of the partner’s life and will not sit well with anyone.

If your partner is spending more than the required amount of time with his ex, either in person or through the phone and net, it is time for you to have a serious talk with your partner, without any aggression or accusations, of course.

There’s no talk without ex talk: This is another painful thing one has to endure in a rebound relationship, especially if the partner is still into his ex. It will seem like there is no conversation topic between you; which does not inevitably lead to her subject. It might be a comparison of how it was before; vis-à-vis now; or it might be plain remembrance of the past, but if his ex’s ghost seems to be a constant shadow in your life, there might be a problem. It is completely normal for us to compare our previous relationships to the present one but if every topic leads to her, it means he has not moved on.

The ex fixation: Another sign that your partner’s heart firmly belongs to his ex will be displayed by his steadfast fixation with everything in her life. If his behavior borders on the edges of becoming a stalker, there is definite cause for concern. He could be continuously checking on her status messages, calling up her friends to find out about her, disturbing her with messages and e-mails etc will indicate an unhealthy obsession. While it is not a problem to be concerned about someone’s well-being, there is no excuse for spying into someone’s private life.

 

Jealous displays: Displaying possessiveness over one’s ex is not a very healthy sign and indicates his obsession with her. If your partner happens to bump into his ex with another man in her arms; and he starts hurling abuses at them or worse comes back home and throws a tantrum, he is still hung up on her. When he starts getting jealous at any news of her getting into another relationship, it is a definite red flag for you and needs intervention.

Trouble in the sex life: If there is trouble in the bedroom, the reason might be his ex. Accompanied with one or more of the other factors will definitely pin point to an ex related problem. When one shares a very passionate relationship with someone and that breaks off, it is difficult to get back into another so soon.

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Besides, there might be a guilt factor associated with it, if he still loves his ex. Getting into bed with someone other than his ex might be a problem for him which will lead to problems for you. And if he shouts out his ex’s name instead of yours when in the throes of his climax, well I don’t need to say anything else.

His ex is a taboo topic: Just like too much talk about his ex indicates an underlying problem, similarly his refusal to completely talk about his ex shows another. There might be another reason why he does not want to talk about her, but is he appears to have a depression attack at the mere mention of her name, trouble is definitely brewing.

Secret meetings: If you have caught your lover having secret “dates” with his ex, which when confronted, he claims to be just friendly meetings; you need to re-look at all the signs again. If he attributes his secrecy to the fact that you would be jealous may be a ruse or the truth. If he gets defensive or aggressive when confronted by you, it means he is hiding something.

While the above factors do not have to lead to an end to your affiliation, it definitely shows some potential issues which needs to be discussed with a cool demeanor. Directly throwing accusations might cause more problems than a solution, and it might be better for you to treat the matter with sensitivity and discretion.

Getting help of a mutual friend without involving yourself can provide some closure. It is good for you to work out a solution if you are truly in love, but there is no need for you to be stuck with so much baggage if there is no change in his behavior even after your discussions.

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Eight Reasons Why Women Get Married

The Bond Of Companionship

We, as humans are social animals and require the company of our fellow human beings in our lives. It might be the care and affection of our parents, the camaraderie between siblings, the shared goodwill between friends or the passion between lovers. In all the various stages of our lives, we are flanked by the company of fellow human beings.

Among all these relationships and interactions, we have only one which is the longest and most enduring. That is the relationship between two married people. That is the only relation which has the potential of a life-long commitment, keeping the divorce rates aside. You will not have the company of your parents for your entire life. Friends and siblings will make a life of their own and get busy. The only bond that you can potentially have for a lifetime is that of matrimony.

Shared Worries Are Always Halved

We undergo a lot of worries in our lifetime and once we become older we are reluctant to burden our parents with our problems. Even though friends help by their support and encouragement, again we don’t like to bother them too much.

But it is a different matter with a spouse; you can share even the minutest of your worries and the biggest of your concerns with them. It is a moot point whether your spouse is able to help you or not, but the fact that you have someone to share your problems with, lessens your burdens by half.

The Romance Of A Life Time

Although one might loath to be tied with one particular person for their entire lives, there is another perspective to it as well. A person might talk about enjoying their single status with a multitude of lovers and partners instead of being ties to one, but this is the talk of youth and beauty.

But it is another matter when you are in your middle ages without your beauty or grace and find yourself longing for a warm body next to you, to share the cold nights of winter. Whoever has experienced the bliss of being in love realizes the feeling of having that person beside them forever. There is nothing to take away the romance of a life-time that a marriage promises, if we are wise enough to see them.

Marriage Will Make You Happier And Healthier

Now, this is a fact which has been proven after a lot of research and surveys. It has been found after many studies that married people are on an average happier and as a result healthier, than their single counterparts. Before, you start laughing at the joke, it is in fact true that while there might be insurmountable amount of problems in a marriage, when you are happily married, it is one of the best experiences.

The Practicalities Of Life

One might argue that companionship and a life-time of romance can also be found without marriage and in a live-in relationship. Although that is true, but in many countries, live-in relationship is not legally recognized and even if it is, you don’t get the benefits that you get as a married couple.

There are a lot of legal and official benefits to be had as a married person and it is a practical reason to be tied to the institution. It saves you a lot of official and legal hassles, you can get a loan for your house or your car more easily. Sometimes, it is even easier to rent a place if you are married.

It might seem unfair, but unfortunately, these are the rules. So, it might be a practical reason for you to get married, which becomes easier if you are already in a live-in relationship. After all it is just a matter of signing some papers.

The Sense Of Security

Although a live-in relationship is great, there are some places where a marriage takes away the cake. You will always have a sense of the relationship being temporary in case of a live-in together whereas marriage gives you a sense of permanence. Although, it might seem ludicrous to some, marriage does help a person stay faithful because of the sanctimony of the vows.

Even though there are no guarantees of a marriage staying forever, most people enter a live-in relationship with the feeling that it is temporary. A marriage can provide a lot of security to a woman, especially if she is not financially independent. Just because the divorce rates are high, doesn’t mean that you should enter a married life with a fatalistic attitude.

Marriage Makes You A Responsible Person

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You might already be a reliable and consistent person, but if you are not, being married has a high chance of making you become a responsible person. You will learn age-old values of compromise and selflessness and though it might sound like a horrible idea, in reality it also helps you know what kind of a person you really are. The more you get inside the realms of matrimony, the closer you come to understand yourself and your spouse.

Love

Perhaps the most important of all reasons why women get married is the love they feel toward their future husbands. Even when financial, religious, legal or biological considerations factor into a woman's decision to get married, love and the desire to link herself to another are the most important drivers. In every society and in any context, marriage is a declaration of solidarity and a public commitment of love and support of between a husband and wife.

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6 Tips To Find And Believe In Love again

 

When a relationship ends in heartbreak, your world seems to have come to an end. No matter how you lose a partner, through a betrayal, divorce or death, at the time you feel as if you will never be able to find love again. It is quite natural to feel bereft and alone and stop believing in love at the time.

But while it is true that a wonderful period of your life seems to have come to an end, it does not mean that the rest of your life needs to end too. Life goes on, no matter what happens and the significant lesson we need to learn from that message is to move on, no matter what has happened. Your heart has been bruised but rest assured, it is not broken, it just feels like that.

You should genuinely love yourself and if you do, you will realize that you can find love again. And it is important to go on loving, because there is nothing in this world which makes life more beautiful than love.

You might feel insecure and scared to venture into the same path again, but if your trust your instincts and keep yourself open to the prospect of finding love again, you will do so. Depending on your own circumstances of loss, there are some steps that you can take in order to help you find love and happiness again.

Accept Your Loss

The most difficult part after heartbreak is the prospect of accepting what you have lost and the fact that it is never going to be back. There still seems to be that faint hope lurking in the minds that maybe things will be better. Well, things will definitely be better, but does not necessarily mean that it will be with the same person.

You have to accept your loss, in order to let anything else come into your life. Till the moment you cling to the memories and refuse to let go, till then you are not allowing the universe to make anything happen for you. When we lose a loved one through death, the suddenness and unexpected shock of the incident does not allow us to think about our lives at all.

But then, our loved ones would not want us to put our lives on hold indefinitely just because we feel too guilty to be happy. There should be a grieving period where you come to terms with your losses, but that should not go on, forever.

Be Open To Love

You have to be open to receiving love, for love to happen in the first place. If you refuse to let yourself be receptive towards love and keep your mind and heart locked away, you will not be able to receive anything from the universe.

Learn To Let Go Of The Guilt And Love Yourself

When we are left broken-hearted, most of the times we feel inferior and insecure about ourselves. It is a normal feeling because of the fact that we were dumped and so the mind automatically starts finding fault within ourselves.

While normal, it is not a healthy feeling and you should start letting go of any feelings of inferiority or guilt. The most important person in your life is you, and you have to learn to love yourself first in order to love someone elseds, you will feel lonely and abandoned. The faster you start socializing and having some sort of involvement with the outside life, the faster you will be able to move on in life. And it always helps to share your grief with someone who cares for you; after all, it will only be lessened.

Learn To Let Go Of The Guilt And Love Yourself

When we are left broken-hearted, most of the times we feel inferior and insecure about ourselves. It is a normal feeling because of the fact that we were dumped and so the mind automatically starts finding fault within ourselves.

While normal, it is not a healthy feeling and you should start letting go of any feelings of inferiority or guilt. The most important person in your life is you, and you have to learn to love yourself first in order to love someone else. So go ahead and indulge in some self-love and spiritual healing and set for the road to recovery.

Don’t Jump Into Anything

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This might sound contradictory when I have been harping about the importance of being open to love. The fact is that there is a time for everything , and jumping into another relationship right after the last one, to get rid of your loneliness is the wrong thing.

You need to come to terms with your loss first, otherwise it will be a rebound love and hence a failure. And rebound love affairs are very common and unfortunately do not have any distinct symptoms. So, you should be over your previous relationship completely, for you to discover genuine love again.

Don’t Make Comparisons

If you seem to have found your new partner and don’t think he matches up to your ex, stop right there. Nobody is perfect, and we always seem to think highly of the things in our past and paint a rosy picture about them. In any case, no two people are alike and just because your new partner has opposite traits from your ex, does not mean that he is bad.

The bottom line is that you should not be making comparisons between two people in your lives which is extremely unfair to your new love. If there is a quality which you have always hated then it is a fair deal to reject the person but not because he does not match up to your ex’s standards. It should be your standards, not somebody else’s.

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Feel Confident About Being Intimate Again

 

Fifty years old has become quite young, and there's no reason to fade for many years yet. What's a good way to get back into the flow?

1. See that confidence for you may come down to changing your mind, and doing something different; anything different. You may have to change a habit of what may have "suddenly" become years. Virtually any step in a new direction will give you confidence.

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2. Pursue your own interests and stay active. It's common, when intimacy is lost, to withdraw from familiarity with others, as well. A big step to regaining confidence in intimacy, and in general, will be re~engaging with others on a familiar level.

• This could mean joining a club or group; working a piece of choice athletic equipment up a popular trail, or volunteering. Whatever you choose, make sure it's something you enjoy participating in, and that is fulfilling for you.

3. Stay open to the possibilities. In the course of being vital, it wouldn't hurt you to turn up the antenna a little bit. If you're doing something you love, you'll be glowing, and you'll tend to radiate more attractiveness as a result. This will be picked up by others around you.

• If you already have a "beau", all of this will just make you more attractive to them.

4. Recognize the psychological boost of even a small improvement in body or mind. In other words, take full advantage of losing 8 pounds, and being noticed for it; or pursue some other, equally modest but worthwhile achievement. Looked at a certain way, a step in any direction is a step you hadn't taken. Tiny little steps will get you up a mountain. Recognizing and celebrating the achievements of your life as you're bumping into Mr. or Ms. Right is possibly your best visualization technique right now.

5. Understand that at your probable age, the antenna is usually tuned to a finer frequency. At your age you are much more likely to be attracted to the more important aspects of people; and this means that you are probably most attracted to people that feel the same way. In turn, recognizing that your intimacy will encompass more than mere lust or self-satisfaction can help you to feel greater confidence about sharing more time and more of yourself with someone else.

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Is He Cheating on You?

 

Relationships are truly remarkable and enjoyable when both parties involved are committed and faithful to each other. It could then be a source of joy and a bond not easily broken is usually formed as the relationship is based solely on absolute trust for each other. Although most of us desire absolute faithfulness from our sweethearts, the reverse often is the case. How would you know your partner is cheating on you? So here is a list of the signs of a secret master cheater:

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1. He comes home smelling like shampoo and soap.

He’s been out for most of the day or so he says, but he comes back smelling like he has just got out of the shower. We don’t need to explain what he’s really been doing do we!

2. He daydreams more than he previously did.

All of a sudden mister secret man starts day dreaming his mind always seems to be elsewhere.

3. He deletes all text messages and incoming/outgoing calls from his phone.

This is the obvious one as nobody has time to delete message s form their phone for no reason.

4. He does things to pick fights with you so he spends time away from you.

This is a cunning plan so he can be spending more time with the other bitch!! (oops sorry did I say that??)

5. He doesn’t seem to have as much money as he once did.

If your man is out dating other women, trust me, at the early stages he is spending cash in the process.

6. He doesn’t want any girl related stuff in his vehicle or flat.

If you are use to leaving belongings in his property then all of a sudden he is cleaning up your belonging from view then alarm bells should be ringing.

7. He has bruises or scratches on his body.

Don’t go jumping to conclusion because of a scratch on his body but take note of where they are. The buttocks, the back and the shoulders blades should be of concern.

8. He is overly preoccupied with his hair and skin.

Its OK for men to take care of themselves, but when he wasn’t before and now he is who is he doing it for?

9. He is taking trips and going out more than he previously did and you are not invited to go along.

OK no one is saying your man is not allowed to go out without you but if he use to invite you along, now it seems like he cant wait to go out and your not invited like previously then….you get the message. 

10. He is uninterested or too busy/tired for sex.

When your man is getting it from elsewhere he will no longer feel to have sex with you so he will make up excuses.

11. He runs a short errand and it takes him hours to return home.

He keeps saying he’s just chilling over at his friends or on a quick errand but takes all night or hours away

12 He shows a sudden new interest in different types activities, films, food or music.

A good sign that someone new is in his life, is the sudden interest of things that he would never normally be interested in.

13. He suddenly has an interest in improving his physique and/or he joins a gym.

A man in the gym who is not connected to a sport is a man that looks after himself and will want to flaunt the results to the opposite sex.

14 You discover he has an email or facebook account you never knew about.

Watch out for this one ladies, the easiest way for connecting with the opposite sex is online and its growing.

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Love Messages Ideas To Send Your Loved One

Its so sweet when you get little love message hanging around the house for you, or sweet love letters with roses or even an i love you message in a text. Love messages are a great way to convey your feelings in a sweet, heartfelt, or playful way.

Here are some very touching love messages that you can use for your loved one.

I love my life because it gave me you, I love you because you are my life.

A candle may melt and its fire may die, but the love you have given me will always stay as a flame in my heart.

A kiss is as drinking salty water: you drink and your thirst will increase.

Feelings are many but words are few, clouds are dark but sky is blue; Luv is a paper, life is glue, every thing is false, only My Luv is true.

Another month, another year, another smile, another tear, another winter, another summer too, never want to spend any of them without you.

Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.

Kiss me and u will see stars; Love me and I will give them to u.

You are like the sunshine so warm, you are like sugar, so sweet…you are like you…and that’s the reason why I love you!

If kisses were the water I would give you the sea, if hugs were the leaves I would give you a tree, but if love was time, I would give you eternity.

Before I met you I never knew what it was like; to look at someone and smile for no reason.

Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice but falling in love with you I had no control over.

You can never stop loving someone, u just learn to live without them.

It’s been said that you only truly fall in love once, but I don’t believe it. Every time I see you, I fall in love all over again

If you can spend an hour in my mind, a minute in my heart, a second in my soul, you’ll know how much love I have for you.

There are 12 months a year…30 days a month…7 days a week…24 hours a day…60 minutes an hour…but only one like you in a lifetime.

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If, out of time, I could pick one moment and keep it shining, always new, of all the days that I have lived, I’d pick the moment I met you.

There’s a love that only you can give, a smile that only your lips can show, a twinkle that can only be seen in your eyes, and a life of mine that you alone can complete.

There are 4 steps to happiness: 1. you, 2. me, 3. our hearts, 4. together!

If love can be avoided simply by closing our eyes, I wouldn’t blink at all for I don’t want to let a second pass having fallen out of love with you.

If you were a wound inside my heart, I’d rather leave it there with all the pain locked inside than leave it without a trace of you.

In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged.

I hoped you likes these sweet love messages, if you have any great love messages that you would like to share feel free to comment!

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6 TIPS ON HOW TO MAKE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP WORK

 

A lot of people these days experience a long distance relationship at some point in their life. Most of us have failed to maintain one and believe that others will suffer the same fate. Why is that so? The reason being is that we start the relationship as if it was like any other and then we come into problems. But what are the common reasons to break up in those long distance relationships and how can you make them work? Below are 10 tips that could make your relationship work.

1. Be honest right from the beginning and ask all the questions to make sure you are both clear on the situation of the relationship. Setting some guide lines such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged sex buddy etc ) as well as letting each other know how exclusive it is (limited to one person,) or non-exclusive. These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great heartache and misunderstanding down the line.

2. Communicate in some way as much as possible. Since you won’t be seeing each other, it’s important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. These don’t always have to be long, in-depth conversations. Quick ‘how are you doing’ or ‘i miss you messages’ create bonds. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use an instant messenger program on your phones or use web cams for that visual connection. E-mail is great so make sure you use it when you can. Write love letters. Send each other small gifts, cards, for no reason. In this case, quantity is as important as quality. Don’t take communication for granted!

3.Being fare away from your boo can be a bit of an experience but take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers. You’ll have more time with friends and/or family, no arguments over toothpaste caps and the best bit is the pleasure of seeing your sweetheart again. Also most important, being far apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality and you can progress at studying or on a new job or business, something that can get lost in the mist when couples spend all their free time together.

4.Talk about your future together. Doesn’t have to be marriage, but you can talk about going on holiday, going into business, see yourself with each other doing things inspiring in the future that makes you want to see it one day. Discussing how you’re going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain.

5. Pursue common interests, even if it means pursuing them apart. If there’s a film in the cinema you’re both interested in seeing, watch it individually and then call each other afterwards and talk about it. Read a certain book, magazines or online videos at the same time. Set your watches to go off at the same time every day, Stare at the moon whilst your on the phone and if its dark where your partner is get them to look at the moon too. It may sound cheesy but both of you looking at the moon at the same time will connect you. Another is to synchronize your alarm with that of your partner. Make it a point to think of each other when your watch or mobile goes off and revel in the fact that he or she is thinking about you, too.

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6. You must try and avoid jealousy and be trusting. One of the easiest ways to destroy a healthy relationship is to mess it up with jealousy. When you start a long distance relationship, you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. It always helps if you go into a relationship with the idea that everyone is innocent and worthy of trust, until proven otherwise. Don’t fall in the trap of questioning and interrogating your partner every time he decides to go out for a drink with people you haven’t met or doesn’t get back to you right away when you called and left a message. You must remember your partner will naturally have a social life where he lives and so should you. Of course it helps to have your eyes open and not be totally naive, but being overly suspicious is unhealthy for you and your relationship too.

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7 Signs He’s About to Propose

 

Is your guy acting a little…different? It could be a sign of bright bling to come. His apartment is clean, he’s saving money, and Thursday night poker with the guys has turned into date night with you? Either your guy is coming down with something, or he’s planning to pop the question. Read on for more telltale signs that he’s ready to say “I do.”

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He’s Growing out of His Bachelor Ways

You can tell his bachelor days are behind him when his number-one priority is no longer himself. If he’s constantly using terms like “we” and “our,” and plans for a weekend with the guys in Vegas are suddenly on the back burner while weekend picnics with you are becoming more common, he’s probably not just sick of his buddies. He might’ve realized that he prefers a more settled lifestyle, and this transition puts him squarely on the path to proposing.

He’s Redecorating

You may also notice certain items have disappeared from his pad, like his college posters and Star Wars memorabilia. Did he ditch that ugly brown chair for a nice new couch? It could be the start of major changes — your boyfriend is making room in his life for you, both physically and emotionally.

He’s Curbing Big Purchases

Has your boyfriend gone from big spender to Scrooge? The plasma-screen TV he’d been planning to buy isn’t hanging over his mantel, and instead of buying rounds of drinks at happy hour after work, he’s home cooking dinner. No, he’s not training for Top Chef; he’s started to eliminate frivolous spending to brace for a large down payment (on your engagement ring). And it’s not just the jewelry he’s saving for — he may be putting away money now so that the two of you will be comfortable well into the future. 

He’s Not Complaining About Weddings
While at a wedding together, it’s more than just the usual eagerness for an open bar. He’s not cracking jokes during the vow exchange — he’s commenting on the couple’s first-dance song choice and the meal selection. Take it as a sign that he’s paying attention to all things wedding-related because matrimony is on his mind. 

He’s Taken an Interest in Your Jewelry
Has he been complimenting your great ability to accessorize? Snooping around in your jewelry box? Holding your hand, constantly? All kidding aside, when your favorite ring goes missing, you’ll know for sure that he’s trying to find a covert way to figure out your size. 

He Wants to Meet the Parents
Okay, so he’s probably already met your parents. If he hasn’t and has become insistent on meeting them, it’s probably for a good reason. But if he already knows them well and has become the first to RSVP for your nephew’s birthday party, jumps at the chance for a weekend visit with your parents, or, even more telling, tries to plan outings for both your families to hang out together, he’s ready for the next step. 

 

He’s Acting out of Character
You know his daily routine inside and out, and any variation is enough to give you pause. If he’s super-insistent that you guys do something you never do (like take a walk through a park or drive to a place to watch the sunset), he may be setting you up to speak those four little words: “Will you marry me?” After all that hard work, be sure to make it easy on him and say yes!

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